Job Interview Do’s and Don’ts

A job interview is the deciding factor in whether or not you land a job. This means that the resume and cover letter were sufficient in proving your written qualifications, however, there is still the challenge of meeting face-to-face. A job interview provides the interviewee with a chance to present his or herself in the best light possible, while also allowing the employer to analyze and assess the individual. The manner in which the interviewee presents his or herself will provide the employer with an adequate evaluation of the individual as a whole. Provided that the interviewee follows these simple interview preparations, they will successfully pass the greatest job search challenge: the job interview.

Before the day of the interview, it is best to take the necessary steps to ensure success. Prior to the day of the interview, plan your outfit accordingly. A modest and conservative ensemble is the safest option. Women should avoid wearing high heels, low-cut blouses, or heavy makeup. In addition, men should groom all facial hair, and refrain from wearing loose fitting clothing. The next step is to determine the exact meeting location of the interview, and the amount of time that it will take to reach your destination. There is nothing worse than getting lost on the day of the interview and arriving at the last minute. Career Services suggest arriving for your interview at a minimum of ten minutes early. This provides you with the opportunity to settle yourself and mentally prepare for the interview.

 

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It is always wise to anticipate the questions that you will be asked, and have a general idea of your intended answers, beforehand. While you don’t want to memorize all that you are going to say throughout the interview, you should practice talking about yourself ahead of time. Research your prospective employer and find something that is of interest to you. Be prepared to talk about yourself, as well as your prospective employer.

Upon arrival, make sure to greet each and every person that you come in contact with. From the secretary to the actual interviewer, every greeting matters. It is very likely that the various individuals in the office will converse with one another after you leave, and share their thoughts about you. Thus, it is advantageous to maintain good eye contact, utilize a firm handshake, and avoid using slang when interacting with each and every person in the office. Furthermore, be sure to use the proper title, as well as the last name of each person, unless you are told to do otherwise.

 

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Although most people are aware of the potential interview gaffes, there are a few little known indiscretions that will immediately displease your prospective employer. While confidence is key, it is possible to be overly aggressive. You must find a balance between being extremely confident and being respectful. An integral part in showing respect is waiting until you are offered a chair to take your seat. It is never a good idea to smoke at any time before or during the interview, even if you are offered. The smell of smoke is not appealing when trying to make a good first impression. Although seemingly obvious, chewing gum during an interview is also unfavorable. Due to the sensitive nature of the current social and political climate, telling jokes during an interview is also widely frowned upon. You never know how your jokes will be received, so it is best not to make them at all.

Your job interview will ultimately run smoothly if you engage in or refrain from all of these simple behaviors. While the majority of these tips are considered to be common sense, many of these are often overlooked and undervalued. In mastering all of these methods of job interviewing, it will be nearly impossible not to succeed.

 

Written By: Janae Grier

Instagram: @JanaeGrier

Website: https://janizzyinc.com/

 

Worst Date Stories

Male or female, I think we can all agree that we’ve each had some horror stories when it comes to love and dating. Whether you are blindly meeting a person off of Tinder or Bumble, or rekindling a relationship with an old friend or acquaintance, dating is one big game that each of us must play if we hope to find “the one.”

I’ve always wondered how everyone is so happy and in love with their significant other, when my friends and I are still sitting at home promising to marry each other if our love lives don’t work out. Personally, some of my worst dates were with a guy who I had known since the seventh grade. We worked together in high school, and we had been close friends for years. He used to beg me to give him a chance and go out with him; so reluctantly I agreed. One time he got so drunk at dinner, that he was stumbling down South Street. He was shouting and cursing and falling into people on the sidewalk. Everyone on South Street was staring at us, as he could barely stand up straight. He was leaning on the stop sign trying to keep his eyes open, and his feet on the ground. Needless to say, I was incredibly embarrassed. I eventually called an Uber and left. I later found out that he was not only drinking, but he had also taken prescription pain medications, which is why he was so intoxicated. That was it for me.

Over the past couple of weeks, I’ve asked some friends (and strangers) to share their worst date stories. Here are a few:

“This girl’s breath smelled so bad. She tried getting me to make out with her and her friend….then she asked me to have a threesome…” said Jon D.

Yikes.

Nicole P. said, “I went all the way to Florida to meet up with this guy who I had been talking to for months. He talked such a good game before I got there. I was so excited in the days leading up to it. When I got to Florida, he stayed in bed for the entire week and played video games. Then, I asked him if we could go out somewhere, and he told me that he just paid his rent and that he could barely pay his bills. We sat in his room for the entire week until it was time for me to catch my flight home.”

Brianna D. said, “I went out on a Tinder date with this guy and I was so mad because he was on his phone the entire time. Then, he asked me to pay for my own bill because he told me that he wasn’t trying to spend a lot of money.”

Thoughts? Do you think that a man should always be responsible for footing the bill?

 

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“I met this guy when I was leaving my doctor’s appointment,” said Gabrielle S. “He was a boxer, and he asked me out on a date. I thought, why not? What’s the worst that could happen? I try to give everyone a fair chance, you know? During our date, though, he was like a dementor…he sucked the life out of every conversation that we had. It was super awkward. Like, we had a good time I guess, but it was just weird. I could tell we both weren’t feeling it.”

Chris H. said, “On my very first date with my girlfriend, she ran over a speed bump, and the entire bottom of her tiny little car fell apart. We stood on the side of the road for three hours because we were waiting for AAA to come. For some reason, AAA couldn’t get to us because we were in the middle of the parkway. We had to call a tow truck, but the tow truck never came either. Then, we decided to call the police, but they had to go to another accident, so I guess we weren’t at the top of the priority list. Eventually, my friend came and got us, and we left my girlfriend’s car on the side of the road. Apparently, the tow truck arrived like five hours later.”

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Do you have a really bad date story that you want to share? Drop it in the comments below. We want to hear your story!

Written By: Janae Grier

Instagram: @janaegrier/@janaegrizzy

Website:  https://janizzyinc.com/

Understanding The Signs of Depression

The stigma surrounding mental illness persists even in today’s society, and it can be an extremely difficult topic of discussion. For many years, having a mental illness immediately meant that you were “crazy” and incapable of functioning normally in society. In the present day, however, several people have been very vocal about their bouts with mental illness, as depression and anxiety are amongst the most prevalent of these diseases.

Depression, in particular, can be a very tricky disease. The signs are not always as obvious as TV shows and movies make them seem. Some of your regular, everyday tendencies can be indicators that you may suffer from some form of mild to severe depression.

Some of these signs and symptoms include incessant fatigue, insomnia, suicidal thoughts, sad, anxious, and empty feelings, restlessness, irritability, pessimism, and an overall loss of interest in the things that you once enjoyed.

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In your day-to-day life, it is normal to experience some of these feelings in response to the everyday stresses of life. Depression is an overwhelming combination of all of the above feelings. It is when these thoughts and feelings interfere with your daily life, that you should consider seeking help. If you experience thoughts of suicide at any point, reach out to someone immediately. You’d be surprised at how many people are also going through something similar.

Be aware, however, that just because you experience some of these symptoms does not automatically mean that you have a mental illness. These are simply guidelines that are meant to make you more aware of your mental health. If you feel that you have experienced some or all of these symptoms, I encourage you to seek help from a trusted friend, therapist, parent, sibling, etc. There is no shame in seeking help. In fact, you are actually stronger and more mature for doing so.

 

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National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255

Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 from anywhere in the US, anytime, about any type of crisis

Written By: Janae Grier

Instagram: @janaegrier/@janaegrizzy

Website:  https://janizzyinc.com/

Ethical Porn

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The porn industry is notorious for being the center of scandal and controversy. While porn is no longer the taboo subject that nobody would dare speak on, the industry still faces many limitations, both in ethics and in health standards. In recent years, porn has become a way of life for many people.

As a result of the increasing popularity of the porn industry, regulators are now finding new ways to make the industry safer and somewhat ethical…if that is even a remote possibility in a business like the porn industry.

In an effort to increase health standards and improve cleanliness, a new proposed California regulation states that all of the porn actors would be required by law to wear condoms while performing. The overall goal of legislators is to promote safety amongst the actors, while also setting an example for the viewers at home, in hopes that they will take the same precautions. However, researchers have found that with the increasing popularity of porn, comes a tolerance for mediocre content.

The porn industry is ultimately a media business. All of the content that is being created is based upon demand and viewership. The amount of clicks on a specific genre or video will trigger more of that content to be produced. Much like the rest of the entertainment industry, many feel that quantity is greatly surpassing quality, as the need for more content increases.

Ethics comes into play, as many of the professional actors in the porn industry are now being replaced with “amateurs,” or non-professional, average people. However, these amateur actors are paid much less than the professionals. Within a few short months, the popularity of these “amateurs” will rise and fall, and their career will be over. In order to continue making money in the porn industry, these amateur actors must produce even more demeaning and exploitive material, thus, furthering the sleazy reputation of the porn industry.

Filmmakers are also taking financial losses, as many of these free websites steal clips from longer movies, by re-labeling and re-branding these clips as their own. The media only focuses on music and movie piracy; however, these same issues take place in the porn industry. “I can create a film that’s more story-driven and romantic, only to have a clip from it pop up on a tube site, where it’s being called something like ‘big-breasted blonde w#$@&%*! on her knees’,” said adult film director and writer, Jacky St. James. In addition, legislators cannot be certain that the performers are of legal age, and if they have consented to the acts being performed in the videos posted on these free websites.

Proponents believe that the porn industry should be ethically regulated just like every other industry in the world. “Much the way organic produce, cage-free eggs and fair-trade coffee have transformed the way we shop for food, ethical porn is changing the landscape of adult-oriented material, making it easier to enjoy,” reported CNN writer, Ian Kern.

The porn industry has become a way for some to actually celebrate their sexuality. Clinical psychologist, David Ley wrote, “It should be made legally, respect the rights of performers and pay them for their labor, and treat both performers and consumers as consenting, thinking individuals. Also important: Ethical porn celebrates sexuality as a diverse, complex and multifaceted component of being a human being, without judgment.”

Although the porn industry creates much moral and ethical debate, there is no denying that there should be industry-wide regulations to help bring fairness to all of the parties involved in creating and consuming the content. The growing popularity of the industry can no longer be ignored or suppressed deep within the bowels of society, so why not deal with it head-on.

Is The Black Struggle Only For Blacks?

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Rachel Dolezal is continuing to perpetuate this trans-racial persona that pushed her to fame back in 2015. This week, Dolezal announced that she is releasing a book that is due to arrive in stores in March of 2017. The name of the book: In Full Color. Many were rather confused and taken aback by this news, as the book is set to detail her struggle of being black. The summary given on the back cover of the book states, “…she’ll discuss the deep emotional bond she formed with her four adopted black siblings, the sense of belonging she felt while living in black communities in Jackson, Mississippi and Washington, D.C., and the discrimination she’s suffered while living as a black woman.” Is it possible to write a book on the black struggle, without actually being black? Twitter doesn’t seem to think so.

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And the bizarre Rachel Dolezal saga continues. It seems that she is making a mockery out of the black experience. There are several writers of color struggling everyday to get their work published and circulated to the public. A Caucasian woman like Dolezal, however, claims blackness and immediately secures a book deal on a topic that we are not sure she is capable of accurately discussing. This raises questions as to whether or not Dolezal is simply delusional, or if she is just too far deep in her lies to back out now. It seems that the world may never fully know or understand her exact motives, or what truly lies beneath her excessively teased hair. The only thing that we can be sure of, is that there’s a first for everything.

Did Korryn Gaines Do Too Much?

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The fatal shooting of Korryn Gaines has been the topic of controversy for some time. However, not many people are aware of the questionably bizarre details leading up to her death.

Gaines had a long history of disorderly conduct, resisting arrest, and several traffic offenses. Not too long before she was killed by police, Gaines was stopped for having a missing license plate. In place of her license plate, there was a piece of cardboard with the following message written on it: “Any government official who compromises this pursuit to happiness and right to travel, will be held criminally responsible and fined, as this is a natural right to freedom.”

During one of her run-ins with law enforcement, Gaines recorded herself throwing her traffic citation out of the window, badmouthing the police officer that pulled her over, and shouting to her five-year-old son that the police were trying to kill them. Gaines even went as far as to tell the police officer that he would have to murder her before she got out of the car. However, there were no signs of police using force or making any attempt to hurt her at all.

Unlike the rest of the deadly encounters that minorities have recently had with police, the police officer in the video is clearly seen being respectful and polite when dealing with Gaines. It is Gaines who immediately becomes agitated and causes the situation to escalate on more than one occasion.

The final deadly incidence took place a few weeks later when police came to Gaines’ house in order to serve a warrant for the arrest of herself and her boyfriend, Kareem Courtney. According to reports, her boyfriend was wanted for assault.

Although Gaines did not answer the door, police were able to hear a man and a woman’s voice from inside of the apartment, as well as a crying child. The officers then got a key from the landlord and entered her home.

Upon entering the home, the police officer saw Gaines sitting on the floor, pointing a shotgun at him. Her boyfriend, Kareem Courtney then attempted to flee the apartment with his child, however police were able to capture him. Courtney informed policed that Gaines had a mental illness and was unstable.

Police spent hours attempting to negotiate with Gaines, and begging her to surrender. They event brought in her family to help talk her down, but all attempts were unsuccessful.

In her final moments alive, Gaines pointed her shotgun directly at a police officer standing in her doorway, causing the officer to fire a shot. Gaines fired a shot in return, prompting the officer to fire the last three shots that fatally killed her.

Upon hearing of this incident, the Black Lives Matter movement was in an uproar. Although Gaines was fatally shot by a police officer, was this really a case of police brutality against blacks? It is clear that Gaines had some type of mental issues, as she had many clearly documented run-ins with police, where she continually provoked them, and constantly egged them on for no apparent reason.

In the videos that she posted before her death, Gaines was uncooperative and disrespectful to the police officers who pulled her over. There was no sign of police brutality or discrimination during these encounters. After investigations into the Baltimore County Police Department were completed, it was decided that no charges would be filed against the officer that shot and killed Gaines. As a result, the Black Lives Matter movement was incredibly upset over this decision, as they felt that police were unjustified in shooting and killing her.

At what point is it necessary to gain control over an impossible situation and take matters into your own hands? Gaines was armed and was reportedly pointing her shotgun at her five-year-old son, as well as at police. With all that is going on in the world, is it too difficult to decipher between self-defense and deliberate killing?

Dignity or Disrespect

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After a recent abortion overruling by the U.S. Supreme Court, the state of Texas has now created a new rule, requiring that abortion clinics bury the remains of the aborted fetuses. In addition to the cost of the abortion, the woman undergoing the abortion will also be responsible for covering the costs associated with the burial of the fetal remains.

The governor of Texas has stated that by implementing this new legislation, they are “giving a voice to the unborn.” However, critics believe that this is not a public health concern, but rather a cruel attempt to restrict women from having abortions. The timing of this new rule is a little too convenient to many people, as the state of Texas had just lost their fight to ban abortion. Forcing a woman to not only pay for the abortion, but also the burial costs of the procedure seems to be a form of shaming these women for having an abortion. These regulations were not put into place to solve any rising public health or cleanliness issues, and it poses no benefit to the woman receiving the abortion. This is another attempt to persuade a woman to think first before having an abortion, or sway them from having one at all.

Furthermore, requiring the woman to cover the costs of the burial is even more unconstitutional, according to opponents of the new legislation. Planned Parenthood reports that an abortion can cost anywhere from $300 to $950. Adding cremation and burial costs to that, will mean that women seeking to have an abortion will be spending anywhere from $1500 to $4000. This poses a huge problem because many of the women who seek out abortion clinics are low income individuals who oftentimes have trouble affording an abortion in the first place. Of these low income individuals, a majority are women of color. Knowing that these costs will significantly add up, critics believe that this is a strategic move by the state of Texas to end abortion. The question remains, is this a real attempt to protect the rights and dignity of the unborn fetuses, or is this just another underhanded attempt to take away the personal and constitutional rights of a woman to choose?